We are married for 16 years. The most important thing for as of now is to continue in the bond that we have between us for the sake of good companionship, progress and to leave an example and an inheritance for our children. Let me point out that it was not always like that.
We managed to outgrow our flaws(kunamata kwakanaka). Having common life targets, and planning together and each one of us doing our part in the pursuit of these targets has kept us close.
Our communication is good, even though I am more conversant with communication matters than my wife. My WhatsApp messages are more lovey dovey. It took me some time to get to this stage.
Most couples meetings (many) we have attended have not really addressed scxual matters effectively as far as we are concerned. We taught and continue to teach each other in that area through books and any meaningful contributions from others on WhatsApp couples platforms. We have learnt that every couple is unique in its own way. What works for others may not work for us.
Our scx life is not always rosy, depending on stress levels especially on my wife's part. I don't trouble myself that much about life's problems. I can have scx even during a funeral kkkkkk. Besides that, I let my wife express herself freely when it comes to sex. No questions. The biblical order of love and submission makes lovemaking good (foundation). Every human being operates effectively when appreciated and encouraged. Anything about scx should not be left to imagination. Women are generally shy to express themselves, but l made myself approachable to my wife. Many marriages get ruined if people are shy because they may fantasize doing it with someone else.
I think it is essential to do it differently in terms of lovemaking positions. One style will become boring. I may recommend something that doesn't work for some couples, but it's about discovering what's best for you. Woman on top is my personal number one. Some styles I don't have names because you just discover them. As long the wife is ready, you will find out you can enter from many different directions. Yes, sec is enhanced by doing it in different places. We don't like noisy places. Lighting can be romantic. The shower is also a good place especially if you just go there to get clean, but while you're there, things just heat up(the surprise factor). Doing it away from home is excellent (honeymoon environment).
The way you relate/communicate with your spouse from morning till evening is actually a stimulant. Both of you quickly get into gear if you have been missing each other through the day. We have been married for a long time. We know each other's bodies. I don't personally need to be touched any special place. I'm almost always good to go. But for the wife, gentle clitoral rubbing, while sucking the breast can work wonders. And lastly, for men, forget about yourself and focus on the wife. She's the one to tell you come in or pull you into her. I hope I helped someone. Help me too, men and women out there.
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