Now listen to this:
1.) Bad boys are closers.
They have a bit of a devil-may-care attitude, and so they have no fear when it comes to walking up to women and introducing themselves, chatting them up for an extended period of time, and/or asking them out on a date.
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Good guys tend to be a bit more cautious. They wait for a sign that the woman is interested before making a move. Of course, the problem is that women think they're giving off all of the obvious signs—but the good guys aren't picking up on them. Sometimes, because they're scared. Other times, because they're shy. Most of the time, it's because men and women are just different. Obvious to women is not the same as obvious to men.
So, good dudes—just go ask the girl out. Get over the shyness or over-politeness. If you think a woman is rad, do both yourself and her a favor and be bold enough to ask her out. She says no? Ask her again if you really like her. Tell her why she should give you a chance and say yes. If she still says no? No big deal. On to the next.
Women love bold guys. It makes us feel pursued. It takes the guesswork out of things. The risk-reward is so in your favor, that it doesn't make sense not to ask that amazing girl out.
2.) Bad boys know that women don't always know what it is they really want.
So many of my girlfriends have a list of what it is they think they want (I did, too). Based on what? Movies? Other friends' relationships? If I've learned any one thing from relationships it's that what you most want and need in one will probably surprise you. The best thing both men and women can do is "trial and error" the crap out of their dating lives. Don't make assumptions about who's going to be a good fit. Take a more playful approach to dating and the process of meeting and learning about someone new.
Good guys: if you want to impress a woman, understand what you have to offer. If it's loyalty, honesty, commitment, fun, adventure, challenge...whatever—let us know. It'll help us understand who you are and why you might be a good fit. Sometimes, we miss out on good guys because we don't know how to spot them. Help us out. Make it more obvious. Show us what makes you better than all of the bad dudes we've been picking. I promise, we'll be listening intently.
3.) Bad boys know what to say.
After listening to a number of smooth talkers over the years, I'm convinced that bad boys watch romantic comedies more often than women do. You know, as practice, so they know what to say to win a girl over. And damn, they're good at it.
Ladies: stay away from dudes who are too quick to say the "right" thing. I'd put money on it that they've had some practice learning what to say, and they probably aren't worth your time too far beyond an entertaining first conversation.
Good guys: Just be honest. This is probably the #1 best thing you could ever do. Be clear about what your intentions are. Be clear about who you are, and what it is about the girl you're talking to that draws you to her. Then tell her. Honesty will put both you and her at ease. Honesty is irresistible. Any amazing woman knows that for sure.
There are plenty of great girls and great guys in the world. If you can get over the false story about why there aren't, I promise, you'll start to see more of them appear in your life.
