Once we are born, there is one definite thing that will definitely happen to us. It may be now or later but it will happen.
Ladies and gentlemen, death is a mystery that humanity has failed to comprehend, let alone capture. Great confusion has arisen the world over with new heights of death statistics being recorded. Greetings loved ones. Greetings from Africa to the rest of the world.
India reported 6,148 C*vid-19 deaths, according to a health ministry report(R.F.I, 10 June 2021). The world over, every person has either been infected or affected by the scourge of the infection. Many of us have lost a beloved one through it and other means in this season. Today, let us look a how you can get over the loss of a loved one.
First and foremost we need to understand the process through which people in loss go through:
Shock and denial: “This can’t be happening to me.” This is a feeling of disbelief. You cannot fathom the idea that someone so close to you has died. After all, they have never died and you do not understand how that is possible and can be. You "know" that the person is "not" dead!
Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?” After a sense that the death may have happened, you cannot seem to understand why someone like that particularly close person dies.
Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return, I will ____.” This is the stage where, still, you believe that this is a dream and if possible you'd do anything to make that bad dream go away!
Sadness, Guilt, emptiness, and depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.” When it finally dawns that people may not be lying about the event, you get into a depressed state. It sinks in and you feel so helpless, there is no meaning to life, you regret not having had better times with the deceased, you feel life is unfair and the like. The guilt that maybe you could have done more, sets in. If people are not helped here they will move to the level of worship where whatever they do is about the deceased and they cannot seem to move on in their life. If helped from depression people move to the next level.
Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened.” People come to their senses that death is unescapable to all of us and while the pain of the death of a loved one can never be fully recovered from, there is still a life to live...LIFE GOES ON!
Here are a few snippets to help you go through your grief and recover from the loss of a loved one
-Be willing to go through the process of grief as given above. The process is natural.
-The sooner you accept the sooner you move to a better place. However, do not force yourself to.
- Do not hesitate to cry. This will help you a lot...Just do not lose your faith in these times.
- Seek the company of others of like-faith, ask for support and prayers. You can also join a support group. You can also have friends and relatives live with you for some time till you feel strong.
-If you can, please do the last best for the deceased. This may help you with dealing with some guilt.
-Talk about the person, write about them, and instead of focusing on the loss, celebrate their life and thank God for the time He allowed you to be together.
India reported 6,148 C*vid-19 deaths, according to a health ministry report(R.F.I, 10 June 2021). The world over, every person has either been infected or affected by the scourge of the infection. Many of us have lost a beloved one through it and other means in this season. Today, let us look a how you can get over the loss of a loved one.
 |
| How To Get Over The Loss Of A Loved One |
First and foremost we need to understand the process through which people in loss go through:
Shock and denial: “This can’t be happening to me.” This is a feeling of disbelief. You cannot fathom the idea that someone so close to you has died. After all, they have never died and you do not understand how that is possible and can be. You "know" that the person is "not" dead!
Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?” After a sense that the death may have happened, you cannot seem to understand why someone like that particularly close person dies.
Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return, I will ____.” This is the stage where, still, you believe that this is a dream and if possible you'd do anything to make that bad dream go away!
Sadness, Guilt, emptiness, and depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.” When it finally dawns that people may not be lying about the event, you get into a depressed state. It sinks in and you feel so helpless, there is no meaning to life, you regret not having had better times with the deceased, you feel life is unfair and the like. The guilt that maybe you could have done more, sets in. If people are not helped here they will move to the level of worship where whatever they do is about the deceased and they cannot seem to move on in their life. If helped from depression people move to the next level.
Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened.” People come to their senses that death is unescapable to all of us and while the pain of the death of a loved one can never be fully recovered from, there is still a life to live...LIFE GOES ON!
 |
| How To Get Over The Loss Of A Loved One |
Here are a few snippets to help you go through your grief and recover from the loss of a loved one
-Be willing to go through the process of grief as given above. The process is natural.
-The sooner you accept the sooner you move to a better place. However, do not force yourself to.
- Do not hesitate to cry. This will help you a lot...Just do not lose your faith in these times.
- Seek the company of others of like-faith, ask for support and prayers. You can also join a support group. You can also have friends and relatives live with you for some time till you feel strong.
-If you can, please do the last best for the deceased. This may help you with dealing with some guilt.
-Talk about the person, write about them, and instead of focusing on the loss, celebrate their life and thank God for the time He allowed you to be together.
-Always remember to take care of yourself, exercise, eat well, bathe, and spoil yourself.
 |
| How To Get Over The Loss Of A Loved One |
As I close, I would love for you to know that Jesus Christ is the only one who overcame death and also did the same feat for you and me if we believe in Him. Through Christ, death ceases to be the monster we imagined it to be but a lee-way to victory: "A good name is better than precious ointment, and the day of death than the day of birth." (Ecclesiastes 7:1)...For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain. – Philippians 1:21 Then I heard a voice from heaven say, “Write this: Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on.” “Yes,” says the Spirit, “they will rest from their labor, for their deeds will follow them.” – Revelation 14:13. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. 2 Corinthians 4:18...For if we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord. So then, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord's. Romans 14:8
My dear if you are going through a difficult time recovering from the loss of a loved one, I and mama are praying for you. Always know that the Lord is close to you: "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit." – Psalm 34:18
Bishop Pride Sibiya loves you and is praying for you!
Receive Jesus Christ today and go to church for spiritual fellowship.
Follow Apostle Pride Sibiya (Bishop: Glory Ministries) on Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, Periscope, WhatsApp, Google+, Instagram, Instaclips, and all social media.
Copyright: Brand Pride Sibiya (tempering with the article without permission of Brand is a criminal offence). The views shared in this article may not necessarily be the same as those of the brand.
