We are in a generation of late marriage. More ladies are feeling comfortable marrying at 40, 45 and 50 and feel that is the best time for them since they do not want to make a mistake.
That is not God's best time for you. God said a man should enjoy the wife of his YOUTH not old age (Proverbs 5:18; Ecclesiastes 9:9; Songs of Solomon 4:15; Malachi 2: 14-15).
Though singleness is to be enjoyed to the maximum by pursing your vision and serving God, you should not overstretch your singleness, please. Don't let the teaching of "God's time is the best" make you sit down, relax, fold your arms when you have serious battle to do!
Some ladies gave me the example of Sinach who married at 41 and gave birth at 46. Sinach for a long time allegedly claimed she wanted to remain single and not get married. She chose to stay single for life but changed her mind later. If it is not your choice to stay single for life, you don't need to follow that route. Linda Ikeji made all the billions while single then suddenly remembered menopause was coming, jumped into a whirlwind relationship and had her baby before it was too late.
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| Reasons Not To Get Married Late! |
Marriage will not kill your vision, it will rather multiply it. "Two are BETTER than one, for they have a reward for their labour."
Bishop Oyedepo married in his twenties.
Pastor Adeboye married in his twenties.
Evangelist Mike Bamiloye of Mount Zion films married in his twenties.
Ben Carson married in his twenties.
Omotola Jolade even got married very early! (I'm not saying you should marry at eighteen).
Couples who mature early, are responsible and get married on time, have time to get heavily involved in each other's vision from scratch and make a global impact. Couples who have already achieved separate success, establish their individual brands and need nobody to achieve anything find it difficult blending with each other after marriage.
I am not saying you should rush into marriage.
Marrying at 30 plus is not a curse. If that is what you desire, why not? You can marry at 30. God's time is the best but don't let fear keep you from getting married at the RIGHT TIME.
Menopause comes at 45.
The energy to raise and train your kids begins to diminish at 40.
You don't want to be sending your children to the university when you should be resting.
At 20, start praying about your future and future spouse. Ask God to lead you and direct you to the right spouse when the right time comes.
Don't wait till 40 before jumping from pillar to post.
Deal with the fear of picking the wrong person or experiencing marital crises.
Fear puts people in bondage. If you allow fear to dominate your mind, spirit, soul and body, you will never propose/accept any marriage proposal talk less of getting married.
Get knowledge. It will banish all fears and set you free to boldly ask God for what you need, have the confidence He will answer you and go on to meeting your God-ordained spouse, destroy all marital delay and enjoy heaven on earth in your marriage.
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You need to clear all generational curses and covenants that may want to keep you from meeting the right spouse.
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Experience the freedom that comes from surrendering yourself to God's will and His blessings for your life.
God wants you to choose right and enjoy your marriage in your youth.
You will not experience a marital delay in Jesus' name.
Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2019; reposted, updated 2020.
