Infidelity, contrary to what most people assume, is neither rare nor exclusively male behaviour nor is it certain to end the marriage.
In fact, almost a third of all marriages may need to confront and deal with the aftermath of extramarital affairs and women’s infidelity statistics are swiftly catching up to those of men.
Infidelity has become an equal opportunity sphere. Even more bad news is that the Internet or online affairs have become extremely prevalent and, some claim, pose one of the biggest threats to modern marriage.
The good news is that extramarital affairs are survivable and marriages can even grow stronger when members of the couple deal constructively with the affair by facing it, apologizing and ultimately forgiving or by simply accepting it.
1. Every affair starts with excitement then leads to regret.
2. Women cheat more emotionally by connecting with another man and for some, it leads to physical cheating. Men cheat more physically and hence can cheat with multiple women
3. The heart cannot multitask. At any given point, the heart will focus on one person. That is why you will start to give your spouse/partner less attention when you are cheating
4. Affairs will open up doors to your relationship/marriage that will be difficult to close
5. Affairs are an illusion that amounts to nothing once you get caught
6. The person who is cheating with you will also cheat on you
7. If you are in a relationship/marriage, the person you are cheating with will soon leave for their real love after destroying your real love
8. Challenges in your relationship/marriage are not solved by looking for a distraction outside
9. Smartphones have aided unfaithfulness for many in our generation. Be smart with your smartphone
10. An affair is exciting because it is fresh. You had the same excitement when the love with your spouse/partner was fresh, that was the original, the affair is the counterfeit
11. Don’t let someone who doesn’t know the journey you and your spouse/partner has walked come to destroy what you have built for years
12. Most affairs start as friendships that had no boundaries
13. The more you consume porn, the more likely you are to cheat as you seek to let loose the monster of lust you feed
14. Don’t blame your spouse/partner for cheating. It is a personal choice
15. At the workplace, remain professional with your colleagues. It is easy to build an affair there because you interact with them more than with your spouse
16. A lot of cheating is happening in churches and religious settings but difficult to detect or even to address because many are hiding behind holy titles and protecting Godly reputations
17. Many parents think they are hiding their affairs or the effects of their affairs from their children but grown children can pick these things and you are hurting them
18. Affairs are expensive. They will cost you your time, money, relationship with God and character
19. Affairs will open up the door for other corrupt ways of your soul like lying, stealing, violence, insults, anger, paranoia and defensiveness
20. If you are in a relationship/marriage, some people will seduce you into an affair with them, not because they want to spend a lifetime with you; but to use you, to challenge themselves if they can get you, to act on their jealousy of the love you have or because they are a lost storm wrecking their own lives and that of others
21. If you were to put into your relationship/marriage the same effort you put in the affair; calling, sweet words, gifts, dates; your relationship/marriage will be strong
22. The reason why your relationship or marriage is not growing and being blessed is because of your affair
23. The reason why you have been single for long is that you are entertaining, flirting and sexing taken people
24. Most affairs drag on because the two cheating despite knowing it is wrong, they keep lying to themselves “Let us meet and do it one last time”
25. A lot of men once they are caught cheating, claim that they are polygamous to cover up and legitimize their infidelity yet they married the wife promising her exclusivity and monogamy
26. A relationship/marriage can survive and thrive after infidelity only if the cheater changes, puts in the work and the two seek counseling, forgiveness and patiently go through the healing process.
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Here are 26 facts about Extra-Marital Affairs:
1. Every affair starts with excitement then leads to regret.
2. Women cheat more emotionally by connecting with another man and for some, it leads to physical cheating. Men cheat more physically and hence can cheat with multiple women
3. The heart cannot multitask. At any given point, the heart will focus on one person. That is why you will start to give your spouse/partner less attention when you are cheating
4. Affairs will open up doors to your relationship/marriage that will be difficult to close
5. Affairs are an illusion that amounts to nothing once you get caught
6. The person who is cheating with you will also cheat on you
7. If you are in a relationship/marriage, the person you are cheating with will soon leave for their real love after destroying your real love
8. Challenges in your relationship/marriage are not solved by looking for a distraction outside
9. Smartphones have aided unfaithfulness for many in our generation. Be smart with your smartphone
10. An affair is exciting because it is fresh. You had the same excitement when the love with your spouse/partner was fresh, that was the original, the affair is the counterfeit
11. Don’t let someone who doesn’t know the journey you and your spouse/partner has walked come to destroy what you have built for years
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13. The more you consume porn, the more likely you are to cheat as you seek to let loose the monster of lust you feed
14. Don’t blame your spouse/partner for cheating. It is a personal choice
15. At the workplace, remain professional with your colleagues. It is easy to build an affair there because you interact with them more than with your spouse
16. A lot of cheating is happening in churches and religious settings but difficult to detect or even to address because many are hiding behind holy titles and protecting Godly reputations
17. Many parents think they are hiding their affairs or the effects of their affairs from their children but grown children can pick these things and you are hurting them
18. Affairs are expensive. They will cost you your time, money, relationship with God and character
19. Affairs will open up the door for other corrupt ways of your soul like lying, stealing, violence, insults, anger, paranoia and defensiveness
20. If you are in a relationship/marriage, some people will seduce you into an affair with them, not because they want to spend a lifetime with you; but to use you, to challenge themselves if they can get you, to act on their jealousy of the love you have or because they are a lost storm wrecking their own lives and that of others
21. If you were to put into your relationship/marriage the same effort you put in the affair; calling, sweet words, gifts, dates; your relationship/marriage will be strong
22. The reason why your relationship or marriage is not growing and being blessed is because of your affair
23. The reason why you have been single for long is that you are entertaining, flirting and sexing taken people
24. Most affairs drag on because the two cheating despite knowing it is wrong, they keep lying to themselves “Let us meet and do it one last time”
25. A lot of men once they are caught cheating, claim that they are polygamous to cover up and legitimize their infidelity yet they married the wife promising her exclusivity and monogamy
26. A relationship/marriage can survive and thrive after infidelity only if the cheater changes, puts in the work and the two seek counseling, forgiveness and patiently go through the healing process.
Receive Jesus Christ today and go to church for spiritual fellowship.
Follow Apostle Pride Sibiya on Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, Periscope, WhatsApp, Google+, Instagram, Instaclips and all social media.
