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Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart already.

Galatians 5:19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest which are these: adultery, fornication, uncleanness… (vs 21)… they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

Titus 2:11-12 For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men. Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly righteously, and godly, in this present world.

Proverbs 6:24-25 / 32-33 To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman (25) Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids (26) For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life. (32) But whoso committed adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul (33) A wound and dishonor shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.

Is Flirting Okay When Single, Married, Or In A Relationship: 

In today’s society they tell us that flirting is a part of the dating process, it is harmless, everyone does it, and it’s not necessarily cheating. They also say, what’s considered flirting to one person, may not be flirting to another.

But is this true? ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! 

Truth always comes in one size fits all. Therefore, there’s a need to clarify these details because everyone can’t make up their own definition.

The Bible says “If you look upon a woman (man) and lust in your heart, you have already committed adultery.” Think about it, a person can be interested in someone and not have a sexual agenda or desire for the other person. It’s simply called, thinking the person is cute or wanting to get to know them better. There’s no harm in that!!! However, this is not the case with flirting. Flirting has to do with being sexually attracted to another person; this is where the problem comes in. Two people flirting are establishing they are interested in one another and if they had the opportunity to have sex, they would which is why flirting is called lust. So how does this apply to singles, boyfriend/girlfriend relationships and marriage? Is flirting in these situations okay and is it ever considered cheating?

Singles: Flirting while single is not of God. Society says you have to flirt in order to start the process of meeting the right person. That’s not true!!! Since flirting is an attraction based on lust, you don’t want to participate in the sin. Your opportunity is to simply be yourself, and be sincere with the person you’re interested in. For men, the bible obligates you to pursue women, not vice-versa. Therefore, pursue with the intent to get to know her heart and spiritual state; you’ll find out everything you need to know. For women, no need to send him the eye contact message, if he is interested he will find you. The bible says “he that findeth a wife, finds a good thing”…

Boyfriend & Girlfriend: Flirting is wrong and its spiritual adultery, not physical when dating. While you’re not married, you’ve made a commitment to only date each other. Since dating is never meant to be forever, the purpose is to determine if the person you’re with is the one God wants you to marry. 
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You can find this out in less than 30 days. The bible says know them by their (spiritual) fruit. If you believe this is the person God has for you, there’s no need to ever look for anyone outside of this commitment. Therefore, if you’re flirting with someone else then you’re lusting; which is spiritual adultery against the Lord. It is not cheating with your partner because you’re not married. Jesus only views cheating as adultery in marriage. Lastly, if you’re with the person God has for you, you have everything you need and there would be no reason to flirt due to being fully fulfilled with everything God knows you need. Society also says flirting is okay as long as you don’t hide it. Not true!!! It simply means the person doesn’t respect or value you, which is evident in my comments above, so I suggest… RUN RUN RUN!!!

Married: Flirting is adultery and is wrong in marriage. Society says it’s okay to flirt during marriage because it helps the person know they “still got it”. However, IF they have the perfect person only God can give them, there’s never a need to see if they still got it, due to having all they need in the mate God prepared for them. Those that are doing this are looking for validation, but our validation only comes from having a relationship and a marriage which is founded in faith in Jesus.

CONCLUSION TO THIS POINT: The truth is that there’s never a time when flirting is harmless, acceptable, or part of the dating process. This is a tactic of deception of a society by trying to complicate relationships and potential relationships with lust: instead of encouraging people to be themselves when being pursued or pursuing. Anytime a person is attracted to another person when they are with someone else, the problem is in the flirter and speaks to their spiritual state focusing on the wrong things that don’t represent God. If a woman pursues a man, she’s not the person God wants him to marry because she’s not patient, she’s outside of God’s order…of a man finding the wife and she’s anxious when the bible tells us not to be. All in all, society doesn’t set the standards for what’s right, Jesus does.

So, if you laugh, you laugh. Or if you hit the person when you’re talking and laughing, you hit them. It doesn’t make what you did, flirting. You’re simply having fun while getting to know this person. The bible says don’t let society conform your mind, allow the Lord through the Word of God to do so. But seriously, flirting is like playing with fire. You can still get burned while hovering over the fire. Things that need boundaries prove they are not harmless or okay.

FLIRTING IS BAD FOR BOTH MEN AND WOMEN: Solomon speaks a lot about the dangers of flirting as a woman as well as what kind of woman flirts. Let’s look at 3 passages.
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The first is from the Song of Solomon 8:4 I want you to swear, O daughters of Jerusalem. Do not arouse or awaken my love until she pleases. Flirting arouses love before it is time. Flirting is great when it is done between a husband and wife but when unmarried people flirt, they awaken love before its time because they start a fire that they cannot righteously “extinguish” through sexual intercourse because they are not married.

The second is from Isaiah 3:16-17 Moreoever, the Lord said “Because the daughters of Zion are proud and walk with heads held high and seductive eyes, And go along with mincing steps and tinkle the bangles on their feet, therefore the Lord will afflict the scalp of the daughters of Zion with scabs, and the Lord will make their foreheads bare. The key phrase is this passage is “seductive eyes” which is used to describe the process of flirting. From this passage, we see that flirting and pride go hand in hand. God opposes the proud which brings about negative consequences. 

There are 2 consequences in this passage that accompany flirting: 1. Scabs 2. Bare foreheads, which is an idiom for exposed private parts. Flirting brings about pain, shame, and humiliation. Is this the kind of future you want? Most young women desire a happy family with their husbands and children and that will not come about when you are a flirt.

The third is from Proverbs 7 where Solomon addresses the men of importance of avoiding a flirtatious woman. She is called an adulteress. She flatters with her words. She is on the hunt. She is cunning. She is loud and rebellious. She takes the initiative in relationships instead of waiting on the man. A flirts synonymous with an immoral person in the eyes of God. She seduces with her smells, with flattering words, and beautiful eyes. The man who falls for her flirtatious ways is naïve. A flirt will lead you down the path to death and destruction. There will be no happiness in the end, neither for the woman nor the man. The naïve man becomes a victim. Are you a flirtatious girl? As a male, do you fall for the seductive ways of a flirtatious woman?
Other than the advice of avoiding a flirtatious woman, there is only one passage that directly addresses men in the area of flirting. The passage is from Paul and he answers a question posed to him by one of the believers in the Corinthian church.

1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman. Women are usually the one who flirt through looks and words while men usually flirt with touches (massages, play fighting, etc.). This starts a fire that cannot be put out while the participants are not married. It is to be avoided.

FLIRTING CAUSES SEXUAL PASSIONS TO BE LIT LEADING TO STUMBLING IN SIN: God speaks of those who cause others to stumble and here is what it says in  Matthew 18:7 Woe to the world because of its stumbling blocks! For it is inevitable that stumbling blocks come; but woe to that man through whom the stumbling block comes. Do you want to be the one who causes others to stumble? Maybe you say that you can control your passions but what about the other person? What about as a believer, do you want to discredit the ministry of the Lord on account of your childish flirting? Here is what God has to say in the scripture 2 Corinthians 6:3 ... giving no cause for offense in anything, so that the ministry will not be discredited. Flirting is offensive to God and to the people who are being led on by this pagan practice.

1 Peter 5:8 Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Know that the enemy is on the prowl, just waiting for you to relax. That is why you must be sober at all times, ready and alert. Never put your guard down. Just one simple flirt is all that the enemy is waiting for.

Ephesians 4:27 ... Do not give the devil an opportunity. One flirt is all it takes to give the enemy an opportunity and a foothold. If you give him an inch then he will take a mile. Always remember that!
James 4:7  Submit therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Submit to the teachings of God in the area of flirting and the enemy will flee from you. Where do you stand on the topic of flirting? Do you indulge in this deadly practice? Are you enticed by a flirt?

May the Lord God bless you all as we continue our study of the traps of Satan; his attempt to trap us in sexually demonic strongholds. Pray and fast and study!

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