WHAT IS A SOUL TIE? In the Bible, it doesn’t use the word soul-tie, but it speaks of them when it talks about souls being knit together, becoming one flesh.
A soul-tie can serve many functions, but in it’s simplest form, it ties two souls together. A soul-tie is an emotional bond or connection that unites you with someone else. You can become bound to a person through your soul.Soul-ties between married couples draw them together like magnets, WHILE soul-ties between fornicators can draw a beaten and abused woman to the man, which in the natural realm she would hate and run from, but instead she runs to him even though he doesn’t love her, and treats her like dirt.
In the demonic world, unholy soul ties can serve as bridges between two people to pass demonic garbage through and between. Other soul-ties can do such as allow one person to manipulate and control another person, and the other person is unaware to what is going on or knows what is going on, but for no real reason, allows it to continue.
Have you found yourself tormented by thoughts about a person, excessively wondering about them, checking on them, rehearsing times with them in your mind? If so, you have a soul-tie. Have you grieved over a severed relationship with someone you were once close to? If so, you have a soul-tie.
Soul ties are formed through close friendship, through vows, commitments and promises, and through physical intimacy. God wants us to have healthy relationships that build us up, provide wisdom, and give godly counsel. God will strategically bring good relationships into our lives to form healthy soul-ties. WHILE IN CONTRAST, Satan always brings counterfeits into our lives to form unhealthy soul-ties.
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WAYS WHICH SOUL TIES ARE FORMED:
Sexual Relations - Ephesians 5:31-33.
Godly soul-ties are formed when a couple marries, and the Godly soul-tie between a husband and wife that God intended them to have is unbreakable by man, according to Mark 10:7-9 However, when a person has ungodly sexual relations with another person, an ungodly soul-tie is then formed, according to 1 Corinthians 6:15-17.This soul-tie fragments the soul, and is destructive. People who have many past relationships find it very difficult to “bond” or be joined to anybody, because their soul is fragmented. FRAGMENT = a part broken off or detached or isolated or incomplete.
Close Relationships - 1 Samuel 18:1-4.
King David and Jonathan had a good soul-tie as brothers in Christ, friends, as a result of a good friendship. WHILE bad relationships create and form bad soul-ties.
VOWS, COMMITMENTS AND AGREEMENTS:
Numbers 30:2-5, 6-8, 9-16. Vows are known to bind the soul. Marriage itself consists of vows and binds the two people together, as we read in Ephesians 5:31, therefore we have little reason to overlook the concept of vows or commitments as being a means to create a soul-tie.
Other Ways In Which A Soul-tie can form:
- Abusive relationships (physically, sexually, emotionally, verbally)
- Adulterous affairs.
- Sex before marriage.
- Obsessive entanglements with a person (Giving them more authority in your life than you give to God.
- Controlling relationships,
Example 1 Of A Soul-tie:
I am with a wonderful and godly woman that is everything I have ever wanted. I love her and would give my life for hers without a second thought. I struggle with imaginations, however, from another relationship with a cold-hearted abusive woman. I need help. I can’t get this other woman out of my head and out of my heart. A pastor gave me a prayer that helps me get a little relief and regain control of my mind, but the relief doesn’t last very long before my mind returns to this other woman.
Example 2 Of A Soul-tie:
I almost left my husband for someone else. I didn’t realize how the spirit of seduction could get such a stronghold over my mind. I was an easy person to control while growing up always being told what I could and could not do in my life. During my encounter with this woman's seduction, I got to the point where I couldn’t even think straight, my judgment was clouded and things I used to be able to do I couldn’t do anymore. My marriage has been restored, and we just celebrated 31 years of marriage. I still have trouble with my mind about a seductive man and I want my husband to hold me and caress me the same as the man I cheated with, but it doesn’t happen, so I compare the two and just settle!
(4) FOUR INDICATORS OF WRONG SOUL-TIES
I FEEL SO CONFUSED 1 Corinthians 14:33
When you are outside the will of God in a particular relationship, you will experience confusion. Your feelings will tell you one thing; your spirit will tell you another. That’s where the confusion comes in. If you are not experiencing peace in your relationship or “soul-tie), then something is not right. That is the Holy Spirit warning you and working to get your attention. You need to respect these warnings. They are not to be brushed off or treated as a small thing. Honor the Holy Spirit’s leading in your life. You should not feel confused if you are in the will of God, and honestly, why would you want to be any other place? When you are confused about a relationship, you can make unwise, regretful decisions. You need to take purposeful steps in feeding your spirit the truth of God’s Word. The truth always overrides deception.
I’M JUST MISERABLE Psalm 38:8
When we persist in doing something that we know God is not in agreement with, we will experience a type of misery that doesn’t go away. You may feel uneasy inside, extreme anxiety, sorrow or pain. You may feel disgusted by what you’re doing, yet feel powerless to change your situation. Those are all indicators that Satan is at work in your life to destroy it. If misery describes how you feel when you’re alone, I want you to know there is hope. Psalm 23:3 says “He restores my soul”, those 4 little words will redefine your life. God will restore your mind, your will and your emotions.
MY MIND IS TORMENTED 2 Corinthians 10:5
The mind of Christ is one that is at peace no matter what the circumstances. When Satan has invaded our souls through wrong soul-ties, our minds will not be at rest. This is where your battle takes place. Is your mind constantly replaying images of the past and rehearsing previous conversations like a broken record? Do your thoughts produce fear or make you feel unclean? Whatever is going on in your mind, it is affecting your emotional state. Your feelings are indicators of what you are thinking. I will be the first to admit that this is not easy, but it is necessary. You can do this. As a Christian you can get your thoughts under the control of your reborn spirit. How? By speaking God’s Word out of your mouth every single time a negative thought enters your mind.
I DIDN’T MEAN TO DISOBEY GOD: If you feel like you have been dealing with a situation for far too long and nothing seems to help you get beyond it, remember this phrase, “God Will Not Advance Your Instructions Beyond Your Last Act Of Disobedience” If you don’t fully obey what God is telling you to do, you will never move beyond your current circumstances.
HOW TO BREAK A SOUL-TIE:
If any sins were committed to cause this soul-tie, repent of them! Fornication is perhaps one of the most common ways to create nasty soul-ties.
If gifts were given to you by the other person in connection with the sin or unholy relationship, such as rings, flowers, cards, bras, etc. I would get rid of them! Such things symbolize the ungodly relationship, and can hold a soul-tie in place. If you are still friends or in a relationship, like say a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, except you’ve repented of an forsaken the unholy practices you use to do in your relationship, then I don’t feel it is necessary to destroy all the gifts and things that you have been given. I would still encourage you to get rid of what symbolizes the ungodly practices in the relationship, such as if a guy gives a girl a bra and panties with his initials on them during fornication. I wouldn’t encourage you to hang on to such things that symbolize sin or that are wrong to give each other before marriage. Things such as flowers and love letters given during adultery should be destroyed.
Any rash vows or commitments made that played a part in forming the soul-tie should be renounced and repented of, and broken in Jesus’ name. Even things like “I will love you forever”, or “I could never love another man”, need to be renounced. They are spoken commitments that need to be undone verbally. As Proverbs 21:23 tells us, “whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.” The tongue has the ability to bring the soul great troubles and bondage.
Forgive that person if you have anything against them.
Renounce the soul-tie. Do this verbally, and in Jesus’ name. Example: In Jesus’ name, I now renounce any ungodly soul-tie formed between myself and _____ as a result of _______ fornication, etc… Break the soul-tie in Jesus’ name. Do this verbally using your authority in Jesus. Example: I now break and sever any ungodly soul-tie between myself and _____ as a result of _________ fornication, etc, in Jesus’ name.
Rather than simply obey God, I believe we try to find answers that won’t be uncomfortable. We wait for an easier way, but we stay miserable inside. What is God tell you to do? Be honest with yourself right now, If God was standing in front of you right now, what do you believe He would instruct you to do in your situation? Don’t go another day, month, or year struggling, obey God’s instructions. Remember, partial obedience is still disobedience. Delayed obedience is still disobedience. God is not trying to hurt you, He is trying to help you. You will never regret obeying God.
YOUR LIFE ISN’T OVER BECAUSE A RELATIONSHIP IS OVER!
Let go of your past and get on a pursuit to your future.
Adopted By Apostle P. Sibiya From - Pastor Samuel Williams
