Why A Man Is Called "Groom" And The Wife "Bride" By Apostle Pride Sibiya

Friends, have you ever wondered the reason a man is called the ‘groom on his wedding day? 

Many a times, we hear or even witness a man separating or even divorcing his wife in less than one year after their wedding. Some men complained bitterly about their wives and even believed that breaking up with their wives was the best solution. To such ones, they believe that marrying their wives was a mistake. What is the best possible way to avoid this? 

Many men have broken up with their wives because they ended up not being the wife they have dreamt of. But they have forgotten that their wedding day was the very day the man was commissioned for the new task. They won't call the woman wife on her wedding day but bride, because it is the man that will “groom” his bride to become the wife. 

Why A Man Is Called "Groom" And The Wife "Bride" By Apostle Pride Sibiya

That is the reason the man is called 'groom”. However, the word grooming has to do with patiently nurturing, teaching, tending and helping someone to become what he or she should be. It is therefore believed that a man that takes a woman to the altar of marriage is matured enough to patiently groom his bride to become the wife. The man is not supposed to just expect the bride to automatically become the wife, she must be groomed. Hence, many men build their hopes on unnecessary expectations when getting married. Sadly, they want overnight magic to happen to their wives.

They want their wives to become what they had in mind about who they had wanted their wives to be, not putting into consideration that the woman does not know what is on his mind except he teaches her. Some men’s expectations are often too unrealistic, because they don't remember that change takes time and effort, and they can only expect something from someone that knows what they want.

Hmmmmm, please before you think of breaking up, why not find out honest answers to questions like; have you groomed her well enough? Have you given her time to understand you? Hope you realize that a turtle will never become a hawk? Sometimes in life, God allows people who are opposite of each other to be together in marriage so that they can help each other in their place of weaknesses. So, if your wife is weak when you are weak, where will you then get the strength that is needed to continue the journey? The problem with some men is that they don't accept people before attempting to change them. Of course, their wives are not from their backgrounds hence; it may take longer period of time for them to adjust. The best thing to do is to accept her, love her, teach her and be patient with her. 
Remember, that is what grooming is all about. She is going to be your wife later, but for now, she is your bride. Why not groom her? Instead of complaining about her, try to be patient with her. I strongly believe that any marriage can work out well, It only needs patience and most importantly, seek for God’s guidance and help.

Adopted By Apostle Pride Sibiya