Love Or Infatuation? Thin Line In-Between.

There is always a discussion on love and infatuation. There is a thin line in-between the two aspects and usually people confuse the one for the other.

While love can be defined, by me, as tender affection for the whole person, for the good of both you and that person, infatuation is an obsession, fascination on selfish, egoistic and egocentric carnal needs.

Now, every normal person has carnal, sensual and sexual needs but the difference is the starting point of both love and infatuation. Love says, for example, “I like this person therefore will look for ways to please them and in the process fulfil our marital vows in enjoying sex together,” while infatuation says, “I’ve never seen such big breasts, curly hips, good sitters and awesome legs.

I just need to get at them or else I will die. If she gets pregnant, I will see if I can marry her!” The lady will say, “how can I resist sleeping with the guy, he is so loving and caring, so wonderful and gives me attention? And oh that lovely six-pack.” Love is concerned about the welfare of the other person, infatuation seeks how to satisfy self, and then leace the other person. Amnon once lusted after his own sister to the point he became “sick”with lust. He felt he could not live any longer without having sex with her and yet after the act he hated her (1 Samuel 13:1-19).

Love Or Infatuation? Thin Line In-Between.

Young people, it is now time to be responsible. Be responsible for your thoughts and actions. Real love is willing to wait, fake love is unwilling to wait because it is too afraid it will be spied out before it gets to its target.

The biggest problem is that, both the ones who have real love and those who have real lust use the same words: “I love you,” and never, “I lust you” (if ever there is such English). This therefore calls for vigilance, discernment and wisdom. The world is very cruel to those without a discerning heart! I feel like crying as I write this, because over the years I have seen the promising lives of young people going down the drain because of a few minutes of passionate pleasure.
Can I take you to the story of Esau and Jacob. Esau came home from a day in the forest, tired and hungry. As he drew closer home he saw that Jacob had been cooking some great lentils. Because of his hunger he gave away his birth-right thinking, “what shall this birthright help when I am dying of hunger.” He forgot that the one who had the birthright today would be the one to carry the blessing tomorrow. The Bible likens a fornicator to Esau, and tells us not to be like him who for momentarily pleasure forsook eternal blessing:

“Lest there be any fornicator or profane person like Esau, who for one morsel of food sold his birthright. For you know that afterward, when he wanted to inherit the blessing, he was rejected, for he found no place for repentance, though he sought it diligently with tears” (Hebrews 12:16-17).