Stop Acting Like His Wife When You Are Not!

Hello ladies, why do you think that acting like a wife will automatically persuade him to pop out the “four words question” and to put the ring on your finger. That is an error and could lead you into big emotional problems. 

Let us be clear on one thing here, until he puts the ring on your finger, you are NOT, I repeat, not, his wife. You can choose to go everywhere together, hold hands, kiss in public; he introduces you to his friends as ‘my wife’, all that is nonsense until he puts a legal ring on your finger.

Did I hear someone say “...but what if we are engaged”. Honestly lady, Even if he is engaged to you, that doesn’t give him the right to demand wife duties from you. Let alone dating. Dating and marriage are very different things. Some men demand that you cook for them, organise their apartment and give them sex to prove that you are a good wife material and most ladies fall for that. Don’t you fall for that. Any man who tells you that wants to use and dump you. Also moving in with him will automatically make you his ‘in house mistress’ who will perform all his wife duties for him without the commitment of marriage. 

Stop Acting Like His Wife When You Are Not!

From research, most ladies that experience breakups were from relationships like this and they end up saying men are evil, there is no good man in this world –

NEWS FLASH: Men are not evil and love is not wicked, you chose not to be wise.

You do not have to submit (in this context) to him until he puts that ring on your finger. Some men demand that you should submit to them because you are dating. If he wants you to submit to him when you are not dating, just think of what he would do to you if you were married to him. Stop giving him your body like a whore. Anytime he wants sex, he calls you up, yet he has not put the ring on your finger. Giving him sex is counterproductive. Your objective is to get married to him, not to warm his bed. Pretending to be his wife by giving him sex will not make him put that ring on your finger. If he gets all the wife duties from you free, why do you think that he will make you his wife? Why will he think of marriage when you have offered him all there is to get in marriage already outside marriage? What is the need of a Honeymoon if all the honey is finished before time?

If he wants you to perform wife duties for him like cooking, organising his life, sex and all other wife duties, tell him to take you to his family and organise a marriage. If he really loves you as he whispers in your ears, he should take you to the marriage registry. If he is not ready to make a life commitment to you, he does not deserve any wife benefits. Most men are scared of commitment but want the benefits of commitment.

Protect yourself from emotional and sexual abuse. Stop giving this man what he does not deserve. If he is not willing to honour you by putting that ring on your finger, then you honour yourself and walk away. 

Stop crying and suffering, telling people how cruel men are “stop playing wife when you are not”.