It is always refreshing to hear stuff about how women feel being lectured by non other than a a woman herself. Apostle Pride Sibiya brings you some things that a woman teaches and would love men to know that put them off:
1. Kissing with gum in your mouth. I don’t know why this bothers me, but it really drives me insane. First of all, how do you even do this? Do you hide the gum under your tongue while you kiss? That seems more difficult than just throwing the gum out. It’s immature, lazy and a huge turnoff. If you can’t spit your gum out, I can’t kiss you.2. Going too fast. Rushing foreplay, or even worse, skipping it entirely is the cardinal sin of sex. As “high-schoolish” as it may seem there are four bases for a reason. Go in order or they don’t work. If you are about to have sex with a woman and she isn’t turned on, go back to first base and start again. Trying to force your way in is both painful and rude. Women take longer than men to get aroused. And spitting on your hand is not considered foreplay.
3. Not listening. Unless you have a genuine hearing problem there is no excuse for this. When a woman tells you she likes what you’re doing and not to stop, listen to her. I’ve had too many botched orgasms because my partner didn’t listen to me and there was a sudden change in motion, speed, or intensity. Also, when a woman squeals “ouch,” that means it hurts. When you hear that word you need to stop whatever it is that you’re doing immediately, or do it more gently or slower. The one thing not to do is continue what the “ouch” induced in the first place.
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5. Being selfish. Laying back with your hands behind your head and expecting a woman to service you while you do nothing to her is hysterical. And by hysterical I mean pathetic. Yes, of course we get turned on by pleasing you too, but it’s a two way street. Needless to say, we don’t get turned on just by looking at you unless you’re Bradley Cooper.
6. Bad hygiene. It’s very disconcerting when you’re with a man to whom you’re insanely attracted and he has dirty hands, or worse – dirty fingernails. You can’t help but wonder what else is dirty, especially what you can’t see.
7. Bragging about how good you are before anything happens. Nine out of ten times the only thing that achieves is setting your partner up for disappointment. Be humble. Be quiet. Show. Don’t tell. If you’re good, we’ll be the first to tell you.
8. Being too quiet. I don’t need an ongoing monologue, but please show me that you’re alive, and hopefully enjoying yourself. Zero communication and complete silence feels very disconnected, detached and just plain weird.
By Juliet Adams
